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A meme circulating around social media after the revelations of Harvey Weinstein’s behavior said, “If you’re a man, don’t say anything to a woman that you wouldn’t want a man saying to you in prison.”

For my part, I think there’s value in this way of presenting the idea that most women live in a default state of fear of men in general that influences how particular mens’ actions are perceived. No, this isn’t because all men are dangerous—they aren’t. On college campuses, for instance, research finds that the vast majority of rapes are committed by a very small number of serial offenders. But the men who are dangerous disproportionately place themselves in womens’ experiences of the world, precisely as a result of the traits (like psychopathy and impulsiveness) that make them dangerous...